The way we raise kids to speak more than one language at home is often framed as a gift, but I've watched families where the children end up resenting the pressure to keep up with a minority language they rarely use outside the house. In my own family, we pushed our son to speak Spanish with his grandparents, yet by age nine he started answering in English and now avoids the language altogether. Does this bilingual upbringing actually do more harm than good when it creates daily friction and a sense of failure? I'm not against multilingualism, but I wonder if forcing it at home can backfire and strain relationships more than it helps cultural identity.