My husband and I have been together for 13 years, and I've noticed that the happiest couples I know aren't the ones who never fight—they're the ones who fight about the right things. When people say 'never go to bed angry,' I think they're oversimplifying conflict in a way that actually pressures couples to fake resolution. In my experience, some arguments need a night of sleep to gain perspective, and forcing a conversation when you're exhausted just leads to saying things you regret. So I'm questioning the blanket advice that resolving every disagreement before sleep is essential for a healthy marriage—maybe a pause is sometimes the better move?