Would you leave your country for a 30% raise if it meant your kids grew up speaking a language you barely understand? I moved from Da Nang to Berlin in 2019 for a logistics job and took home €2,400 more a month after tax, yet my daughter now corrects my German at dinner. My wife and I still send money home every month, and my parents video-call us at 6am their time just to catch my son before school. I keep a spreadsheet of what migration actually cost us — lost grandparent years, a nursing degree my wife can't use here, three years of renting a room with a shared kitchen — and the salary column is the only one that grew. Was it worth it? I still can't answer honestly.