I've been married for twelve years, and I'm starting to think that staying together for the kids does more harm than good. My wife and I argue constantly, and our two teenagers can sense the tension even when we try to hide it. We've talked about divorce, but we always come back to the same excuse: the kids need a stable home. Yet I've read studies showing that children in high-conflict families actually fare worse than those whose parents split amicably. Maybe we're using the kids as a shield to avoid our own fear of starting over.