I've been married for eight years, and I still can't decide if compromise in a relationship is a strength or a slow erosion of who you are. We've navigated career moves, parenting styles, and even where to live, and sometimes I wonder if the person I am now is the person I started out as, or just a patchwork of concessions. Is it possible to truly maintain your individuality while being deeply committed to another person, or is some loss of self inevitable and even necessary for love to survive?