Attachment styles formed in childhood don't have to be a life sentence, but they do shape how we argue with our partners well into adulthood. I used to think I was just 'bad at conflict' until therapy revealed I was anxiously attached, replaying my mom's unpredictable responses every time my boyfriend went quiet. Naming that pattern didn't erase it, yet it gave me a pause button I never had before. Can we really rewrite these deep neural pathways, or are we just managing a script we never chose?